Wednesday, March 28, 2012

'Used in Vienna'


Isn't it strange? Antonie Brentano, generally believed to have been Beethoven's Immortal Beloved, wrote to "Dear Abby" today from beyond the grave.

I read it this morning and all I could think of was Antonie. "Hugh" has to be Beethoven.

I am sure of it.

Here is the letter in case the link expires:


Dear Abby: I’m a 45-year-old married woman with four kids. I fell in love with a longtime friend, “Hugh,” two years ago. He’s single and has never been married.
I told him I want a relationship, but he says that since I’m married we can’t have one.  I told him I love him, but he’s not sure he feels as strong about it as I do. We have been spending a lot of time together and have started to get intimate.
I told Hugh I don’t want to just fool around—I want a commitment. He worries about my kids, and that if I leave their father they won’t understand.
My husband is very cold and distant. We don’t say much to each other anymore; we’re just two adults living in the same house raising our kids. We have gone to counseling, but it didn’t help. My husband says things are fine—but they’re not.
I’m angry because Hugh...

... is willing to fool around but not commit. He says this shouldn’t go on anymore and his heart isn’t in it. The fact that I’m married bothers him. I told him to wait and eventually my husband and I will divorce. I’m hurt by his decision to back out. I feel he wanted the intimacy but doesn’t want ME, and I feel used. How do I sort this out?
—Used in Vienna
OK, it was really "Used in Massachusetts." My imagination began running away with me.
The perils of being a music nerd!

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